Excerpt from Leahcim Semaj

Read this from him. It makes a whole lot of sense. read it for yourself:

The Secret to a Successful Life

Leahcim Semaj, Ph.D. - Change Agent

We have two basic human needs - Work and Intimacy. Hopefully, you were the by-product of intimacy. Hopefully someone loved you enough to nurture you when you could not care for self. As children, someone worked so as to sustain you.

The first stage of the transition to Adulthood is WORK

Work is how you pay rent for occupying space on earth
People need meaningful and rewarding work, both components are necessary
The person that feeds you, owns you
As we enter The Information Age, the level of education you have is now even more important as a prerequisite for work

We have some important gender differences at this stage:

At primary and secondary school, girls are out performing boys worldwide
Boys are more likely to be held back or drop out while girls stay in school longer
Females have vaulted the University gap, ¾ of all Tertiary enrollees in Jamaica are females

Some men are having a hard time adjusting to the fact that their partner is ahead of them academically. Many educated females are having problems finding partners who are their social and intellectual equal.

The second stage of Adulthood is called INTIMACY
The fact that you can support yourself now enables you to bring something to the table to share with someone else. In the world of relationships ½ plus ½ is not ONE, but still 2 HALF PEOPLE. Unresolved personal issues mainly add baggage to the relationship.

The third stage of Adulthood is PARENTING
You are not ready to be a PARENT until you can PAY RENT! A child NEEDS 2 Parents. The real crisis in Jamaican life is the devolution of the family. Parenting requires more than the combination of egg and sperm. The Long Term Solution to Crime and Violence - The 2 Parent Family

FACT - Fatherless boys commit more crimes
FACT - A man in the home is more important than any other single factor in the socialization of boys

Jamaican Birth Registration for 1999 tells the tale.

All births - 53,626
Parents unmarried - 41,670
Fathers who signed - 15,242 (28%)

Many females are making bad choices by breeding for irresponsible sperm donors. Many of our males are not evolving above the classification of stud service and sperm donor that was imposed during slavery.

The implication of this situation is that we have to begin to make better life choices. The rules for mate selection are similar to the rules of domino. Rule Number 1: Draw good cards. In June, the month for love and marriage, The JobBank, Flair Magazine and Nationwide will launch a feature to help evaluate you and your mate. One definition of love is that you know the person’s worst faults and are willing to live with them.

How will it work?
You and your partner can go on line at any time to www.jobbank-ja.com and do your Personality Profile. This special will allow you to do two profiles for the price of one. The results will be returned to you by email within 24 hours after payment has been received, showing the contrast in personality, conflict management and psychological needs. Every Monday Flair Magazine will carry an article helping you to understand the dynamics of the partner selection process. In addition, we will be hosting a live interactive talk show 7-8 p.m. on Nationwide on Mondays (HOT102-FM) to help you unravel the mysteries of Drawing a Good Card - in the game of mate selection.

Just giving you some info.